You might want to rethink that decision you made hastily in the darkest of nights.
Turns out in a dark night it’s easy to miss important clues.
It’s a life principle to keep in mind that I learned vividly recently. Last night, in fact, when the night wasn’t quite so dark, and a friend stood with me assessing and affirming my conclusions.
The thing about dark nights is that they are, necessarily, dark. It’s hard to see the truth, easy to make quick assumptions. Always re-test your Dark Night conclusions in the daytime.
The other thing about dark nights is that your brain is spent, tired, weary. You’re not at your best when you assess life without the restoring medicine of rest, and in the morning when the sun rises, the world can look very different.
Never trust a Dark Night decision.
Never trust a Dark Night decision. Always test it again in the light.
My own Dark Night conclusion was complicated in that it was also very small, hard to bring into view. And then it was quite wiggly, squirmy, wouldn’t sit still long enough for me to get a good look at it. You know what I mean? Some decisions are like that.
It was further complicated by the fact that it’s Mother loomed over it. Do all decisions have Mothers? This one did, a Mother influencing, shaming, protectively trying to hide the conclusion from me, obsessively licking and turning my decision over and over so that it was a tumbling, moving target.
What I’m trying to say is this: Dahlia in the daylight turned out to be a Denver.
Could that be a life principle, too?
Dahlia in the daylight turned out to be a Denver.
Wait it out. If there's not enough light, if doubt persists, if weariness overwhelms, wait for the daylight.
This is true whether you're talking midwifing puppies or that move to Idaho or the partnership you are thinking of making permanent. If it's not quite clear, wait. Light will come.
Denver, you’re adorable! Let me smell your puppy breath one more time, sweet thing….
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